Dec 9, 2008 by FN's Trixie Reyna
Some younger men, meanwhile, tend to go for older women simply because she has achieved a certain level of experience, confidence, and sophistication—sexual or otherwise—which is a major turn-on. It also helps that older women somehow alleviate the pressure they feel about having to be the breadwinner.
There is also a certain stigma against this type of relationship. In the Philippine context, for instance, some people stereotype older women dating younger men as “sugar mommies.” Another term used for “older women who actively seek out younger men” is “cougars,” says WebMD.com. In whichever context, it seems “the bulk of our ‘scorn’ still seems directed squarely at the reputation of the older women,” as observed from a study done on the implications of marriages involving women a decade or more older than their mates published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy in 2006.
With these pros and cons of an older woman-younger man pairing, you can also pretty much assume their similarity with the downsides and perks of a younger woman dating a much older man. Bottom line, making a quite unconventional relationship work really depends much on how the individuals involved handle the relationship and not let certain pre-conceived notions affect their choice. The same rules for dating and seeking your ideal partner apply.
To quote another article on age differences, “Cougars? May-December? Does Age Matter When You’re Dating?” asserts, “In all your relationships, you will do well if you don’t make assumptions about anyone based on outward appearance, age, sex, race, or any other bias. You’ll do well if you can take each person as they are, for who they are, and know them before you judge.”
So we’d like to know: If you have not yet dated a man way younger or older than you are, will you? Why or why not?
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